I am a little nervous about getting started on this subject for fear of writing an entire book on it. I do not deny the facts that there is such a thing as mid life crises and am probably going through one right now, as I type away on my laptop. This malady does not affect just men but strikes the female gender as well. As I stated before, this is a legitimate occurrence - yet it is also used as an excuse for the desire to act stupid, immoral, selfish, and ridiculous.
Is this something new you might ask? Understand that you would probably ask this question if you have been a cave dwelling hermit all your life. I have heard of this all since childhood from the women in my family. There always was a discussion concerning who was having midlife Crises and who was getting a divorce because of it, when the women congregated.
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Young Women have listened repeatedly to the symptoms to watch for in their man. They would listen and cringe at the thought of their midlife years and the metamorphosis of their beloved husband. It was like waiting for a number to pop up in the draft. You waited fearfully to see if your husband's number was called or if you would escape the horrible fate.
The symptoms were undeniably horrible. The males would go out and buy a sports car or a sporty pick up truck. They would change their style of clothes to include tight jeans, Speedo's and expensive shirts. Usually the male would start frequenting the gym and working out to "get back in shape". If it were necessary, they would start shaving or waxing their back, trimming their ear and nose hair, tanning and moisturizing their skin. They become super critical of their wife, children, and their lifestyle. Finally yet importantly, this malady usually progresses to the affair. They now have less testosterone in their entire life and they now want to run around, have an affair and possibly leave their wife.
Welcome to the future. Times have changed and so has the Midlife crises excuse. Instead of men wising up- the females decided to join the cause instead. Woman now have midlife crises. Is this a good thing? Since when is it considered acceptable to act stupid?
It is always good to care how you look. Maybe that might start when you slow down enough to realize your body is aging but it is never to late start taking care of yourself. If you desire a face-lift or a tummy tuck for the right reasons than I am behind you 100%. You have to be able to afford it without penalizing your family and as long as have that covered - go for it. I do not care if you are male or female, as long as you like yourself inside and want to dress up your outside- I think it is great.
Okay you have reached midlife and done your mini van time, dealt with the stale French fries in the car and been sensible in limiting car payments. Through out the years, you have purchased cars with the family in mind. If you reached midlife and have the ability to afford a sports car or a sporty pick up truck - honey, you go for it. I am all for you fulfilling that dream of a vehicle of your dreams. Take off with your mate on a road trip and feel good about your accomplishments.
As I stated before, I am probably in a midlife crises right now as I type this. I want plastic surgery, I am losing weight and want to lose more, I am rubbing all types of wrinkle erasers on my face, and I would love to have a sports car - convertible - thank you.
Last but not the least important -Do I have the desire to cheat on Steve? No. Would I feel younger or sexier if I slept with a much younger man? Heavens no, no one has more to offer than my own mate does! I have the desire, to lose weight, tighten up, lose wrinkles, and strut my stuff. I want to do this for myself first and Steve secondly. I think he is a wonderful man and is the hottest number around. How would going out and cheating make me feel any younger or better about myself? What would be great though is to feel good about myself from the inside out and sharing it with the person I love.
For far too long many people have used the tag "Midlife Crises" to go out and act in a way they know is immoral and unacceptable. Yet for some reason, they feel if they use the guise "Midlife Crises", everyone will understand and forgive whatever despicable behavior they want to display. This is not a reason to have an affair, become an insensitive jerk, or walk away from relationship.
In the past, many males hit this age and experienced sexual dysfunction and the frustration that went with it. This is normal considering the age and the fluctuation in testosterone and hormones. However, science has found a help aid and it is not another mate 20 years your junior. It is called Viagra. The same for the waning lack of interest in the female sexual appetite as well. Science has a pill for that restores you back to your hot little self. A trip to the doctor could have you and your significant other enjoying a hot second honeymoon.
Medical advancement has really taken away the Midlife Crises excuse to cheat. There are the male and female versions of Viagra, face-lifts, tummy tucks, antidepressants, counseling, Hormone Replacement Therapies, and botox. You can and your significant other can have it nipped, tucked, sucked, sculptured, and polished. There is no reason to look beyond your own bedroom.
If you are one of the many people who are still using the term "Midlife Crisis" to act immoral, lack integrity, become self centered or to shun your responsibilities - the jig is up. People now see it as it really is and will see what you are doing for what it really is.
Turn your midlife crisis to your own advantage by making it a time for renewal of your body and mind, rather than stand by helplessly and watch them decline.
Jane E. Brody
The soul is the captain and ruler of the life of morals.
Sallust (86 BC - 34 BC)
Each man takes care that his neighbor shall not cheat him. But a day comes when he begins to care that he does not cheat his neighbor. Then all goes well -- he has changed his market-cart into a chariot of the sun.
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)
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